Wisdom of Ramadahn by Ursula Roberts

CHAPTER TWO

 What Happens When We Die?

Ramadahn, can you say what you know about death?

 Beloved brothers and sisters, we of the spirit have died our deaths. Because of this we are able to speak with understanding on this matter of life and death? Which each of you come to experience in your own short seasons of earthly existence.

 The threads of life and death are woven together in a most wonderful and mystic pattern: it is as impossible for us to disentangle the threads, as it is for you, for they are each a part of the other. Where there is life, death is beginning to manifest. When death is taking place, there too is the dawning of life, for they are woven finely with a wondrous twinning of eternal life.

 Would you tell us something about the reception at death?

 There are many ways this may come into being. Often, as the body becomes aged and the soul gets ready to break forth into the new life of the spirit, a beautiful time of preparation begins.

 On your earth, those acquainted with the one who bears life will begin their preparation by creating garments and conversing together as to the joy of the life still to come. Even so, here within the spirit realm, those who have known the soul soon to be released from the body will begin their preparation long before the ripening is completed.

 Sometimes they will break through earth conditions to bring unto the expected beloved a reassurance and welcome in the form of a dream or vision. Here, a place is prepared, often a simple room in one of the temples, dressed with blossoms and flowers from the gardens of healing, and into which we bring objects dear and familiar to the beloved. The mother, father or other loving spirit will sit silently waiting beside this new-born soul until the deep state of rest ceases to hold the consciousness. As they awaken they behold the smiling faces of those they lost long ago, but who wait now to welcome them into the newness of spirit.

 What of those who die of disease in hospitals?

 Each hospital of your earthly plane is inhabited by a legion of shinning spirits whose task is to watch over those who suffer, to bring peace unto those who are restless, and to guide as best they may the hands of those who minister.

 When they see a soul breaking forth from the encasement of the body they send forth into the ethers a call for the servers, that the beloveds of this one may come swiftly, to carry the soul high away into the homes of rest within the spirit atmosphere close to the hospital place. Truly we know much of death-the death and reunion that brings joy-but you see only pain and sorrow. Those of you who have borne children will know that you approach the final time with a certain apprehension because you know not what to expect, but later this changes into expectation and joy.

Those who learn the laws of the spirit will know that when they come to the moment of dying they will feel apprehension and fear, but they will remember to transmute this into expectation and joy, into the remembrance to look for the light as the moment of death approaches, that they may emerge from the dissolution of the body into the joy and wonder of spirit.

 As you wait by the bedsides of your beloveds, in the quietness of thought and even with a spoken word, say: "Go forth in peace. There is nothing to fear. Go forth to meet those who await you. Look for the light!"

 Remember that in life you are in the midst of death, and in death you are in the midst of life. Most surely, each of you in the fullness of time will come to the closure of your mortal life, and the closure too of someone dear and beloved to your heart.

 What happens to those who die through accident, war, or by the hand of other men and women?

 When this happens, fear and confusion close in upon the consciousness and the spirit is held within the near-earth region. But if such a one has been made aware of the teaching that at death they must look for the light and for the guide in the region beyond earth, then as they realise they are dying, this recollection will slowly emerge and they will begin to look away from the place of terror, from the horror which held their awareness, and start to move up toward the region of peace.

 Because so many today live only for the things of the body and the earth, many spirits are held close to the earth, hovering around their place of dying, seeking only to come back again into a familiar environment, frightened and lost. Let this teaching of looking to the light be made more widely known, and then even those who die tragically will find their way out of the places of sorrow into the regions of peace.

 Always send forth your prayer for light when you hear of one who died at the hand of another, or of those whose bodies are destroyed through accident or war, saying: "Be at peace. Look for the light. Seek for one who will lead you out of fear into truth." Your thoughts sent forth in love and enlightenment will reach these souls. They come to them as the speaking of the priest comes into the consciousness of those who hear his voice as they are dying. But those who die without the priest, or the reassurance which should come through their religion can be reassured as they hear thoughts and prayers which go forth into the region surrounding your earth, thoughts that can lead them out of their darkness and confusion into light and harmony.

 How long is the time of preparation for the withdrawal of the soul from the body?

 Sometimes as long as two years, though three months is usual. But in your earth today there are such deep, slow disease forces at work and your doctors devise means of lengthening the period of life. Often death is expected by us before it is allowed to take place upon earth.

 What happens when a large number of people die at one time because of an accident?

 There is a certain pattern of experience for each soul, but not necessarily a predetermined length of time. The importance is in learning the lessons of experience rather than in the time taken, so there may be some who can grasp or develop a quality of the soul in a period of twenty years which may take another soul seventy years. Where, there is sudden death through accident, this is not always planned as part of the spirit's experience, but it will often be foreseen by the spirits watching over that one. There will have been an intuitive recognition of the possibility of such a dying, because there is still some preparation given. Such things are foreseen by the Guardian ones, but though warnings are given and intuitive impressions imparted, the people of the earth are so intent upon their own desires that often they disregard what has been conveyed.

 What happens to those who deny the existence of God and who think that  when death comes that is the end?

 There are many who come to the closure of their life in this state of understanding. There are many who destroy the body of flesh that has clothed their spirit (suicides) and they say they are dead, yet they still live, for the spirit lives even beyond the belief of the mind and soul. So the unbeliever looks this way and that saying. "I am dreaming for I know I died yet I still live. How then shall I destroy this which I know does not exist?"

 This unbeliever must at last come to the acknowledged truth that he still exists, and looking round he will view life in the spirit regions, then looking back he will see the earth. As his vision circles again to spirit this one will see the beloveds, for truly every soul coming into this state is loved by somebody. There is the mother, father or grandparent, always somewhere there is a spirit in an affinity with this one, if not from the earthly existence then from the state before the mortal life began.

 So the unbeliever is met with love, and these loving spirits will bring light into the shadows, truth to penetrate darkness, and slowly by creating opportunities for service, he will find his way upward into the regions of light.

 But not all unbelievers or agnostics are like this, for some have become lovers of humankind and lavished themselves in love and service for the betterment of the rest, and this in a measure is the symbol of their worship unto the great Master Giver of all.

What happens to little children when they die?

 These child souls do, indeed, have a very special place in the spirit world and a very special task to perform. This is not always understood by those on earth.

 If death intervenes for the child, youth or maiden, as the physical body is laid upon one side the young soul is taken by the teachers and loving spirits into the regions of light and gardens of peace, that therein development and unfoldment may be completed in the care of wise and loving spirits.

 Because it is the spiritual law that every soul grows through the giving of itself, so the child-soul has to learn how to give some part of its energy, its love, some part of itself, ere ever it may absorb new energies, truths and loves. So the children are trained and developed in the schools of the spirit and are then given some work to do, but these tasks are of the soul and the spirit.

 What do the spirit children do?

 Some come into earth's atmosphere from time to time to blend their influence with that of earth's dwellers, shedding and sharing the love inherent within the emotional body. As they shed it there, so do they become aware of the heaviness, weariness and loneliness experienced by those in the mortal world.

 They come also to your little meditation and development groups, for as you sit thus, often a soul sinks into stagnation, and instead of peace there is heaviness and sleepiness. But when the children circle round such a group they impart a quickening vibration of power and joy: as the children dance and sing their vibration often emits a sparkling dust of radiant light which may be seen to the clairvoyant eye.

 As they give of themselves in this fashion, so are they filled with new understanding, and on returning to the spirit school they will be full of questions: Why are the dwellers in the earthly life encloaked in grey? Why is the atmosphere so heavy? Why are my parents who love me so tearful? What is the purpose of earthly existence? As these children learn the truths and understand the lessons, they may in time be able to give to some growing medium a part of their knowledge and truth. By blending with a medium they bring to earth's people their simplicity, purity and inward wisdom. At the same time they garner knowledge of the difficulties and problems associated with life on earth.

 In your great hospitals there are wise and lovely spirits, women who in their earthly existence served as nursing nuns or sisters and who still continue their ministry of love in these places of illness. These people send forth requests unto the spirit children, who come and share their joy with the hospital children who, in their bodies, are weary with pain and sickness. The groups of spirit children will lift the soul of the sick child to regions of light and healing that when the child wakens from sleep it will be better able to deal with the unhappy state of the mortal body.

Sometimes such children will be aware of their spirit companions, but those in the mortal body will not always understand, and will think that the child in its illness is becoming deranged in the mind. Sometimes, too, the children will minister to the aged and lonely, who are often very close to spirit, and the old ones waiting for the call to spirit will be comforted. And the burden of loneliness will be lightened.

 How do the children develop?

 In the regions of spirit life the children also have their play, and we often enter into their little games, teaching them some of the wisdom of spirit. The joyous children run and fling themselves into our arms. As we enfold them, we encircle them with the stronger spiritual force we ourselves possess, as well as partaking of the child's joy.

 They are also taught to circle round and to dance, and in their rhythmic movements they absorb some of the ethereal matter inherent in the spiritual atmosphere, instead of absorbing food. The ethereal body is strengthened by this, the love body is quickened by the exchange of love between itself and the loving souls who care for it, and the mind is strengthened and quickend by question and answer, even as on the earth.

 But how beautiful are the children! Their eyes shine with the unstained purity of the spirit, their bodies unfold in flexibility and beauty, for any sickness left from the earthly experience is eradicated by the healing and understanding of the spirit healers. 

So, think sometimes of these children whom you love, not with sorrow, but with joy and tenderness, and visualise them taking their way through the schools of spirit, cared for by the mother and father souls, the servers and lovers of children, who in their love prepare them that in their turn they may bless and heal earth's loved ones.

 What happens when children die as a result of war?

 We gather up these young souls which have been shattered by explosions, for those suddenly thrust from the body also feel the effect of this in the etheric body. We bring them to great gardens and pools of peace, and special healers look after these child souls. After a long period of rest and correct teaching, in which they learn to absorb again the etheric atmosphere, the etheric body can be healed and restored, and the expansion of the love and mental bodies continued. We understand their needs, and if in some future time they desire to take again the earthly experience they will enter it without fear or shrinking, but with love and understanding.

 What is the spirit view of euthanasia?

 Our view of the difficult subject upon which you so often think is this: Let love be your watchword. Teach this unto those whom you meet day by day, and if love dictates their decisions then wise and beautiful will be their ways of solving the problems of human relationships.

 We of the spirit know that life is an ever-flowing pattern, an ever­-changing melody, a continuous process of living and being which is unbroken, for it is constantly transmuted from one shape into another. But you, encompassed around by limiting conditions, are not always able to see the eternities of time and the ever-changing pattern of creative life, so your understanding of life and death is somewhat different to ours. You regard death as an end; we see it as we regard birth, but an important incident in the whole flow of life. So, reach out and turn your vision past the ending of mortal life to the life beyond, then turn your vision back to the pre-birth existence, that you may see this is all part of the beauty and power of the Master Creator.

 Whatever causes the termination of life on earth, whatever breaks the pattern, always there is understanding love, the great flowing life-force to reform it and bring harmony and beauty once more into being. Therefore, when man or woman is helplessly suffering and others try to bring what may be a merciful end to their suffering, we see it but as a little break in the weaving pattern of human experience. Life continue for life is a continuous pattern.

 If upon your roadside you see a living animal which, through carelessness of its owner, has been allowed to stray and has become injured by a moving machine, beholding this creature panting and crying in pain, do you not see an act of ignorance which has broken the beautiful pattern of life? Do you not then consider which is the most loving thing to do: to heal the animal of its hurts, though even when its bones are mended it may only hop or move with pain to seek its food, or does your love for the creature bring you to release it from its suffering that its life may continue in this flowing pattern of the great Master Creator?

 Love will dictate your decision. If your love is self-seeking you may hold it within its pattern of suffering that you can retain companionship, but later you will be forced to think: "Was it real love that kept the living force within a body that is blind and crippled?"

 So it is through all the pattern of human existence. As you sit beside the aged ones whom you love, whose bodily tenement has become filled with pain either because of the physician's ignorance or their own lack of attunement, sometimes the greater love is to release the spirit into the great flow of life within the spirit existence. But always the decision must be made in love, and sometimes it should be dictated by the desire of the sufferer himself.

 First then, there should be the effort to restore harmony by bringing peace to the mind, spiritual healing to the body and soul, and love to the heart of the sufferers. If after that there is still pain, helplessness and disease, then sometimes the way of restoring harmony in life is to bring about release, for release is peace.

 When a person dies, are they affected by the grief and sorrow of those  remaining?

 Excessive grief creates considerable disturbance in the consciousness of the one freed from the body, and within the heart aura of the one remaining grieving creates a funnel effect in which there is a continuous swirling movement. If the spirit loves the one who is grieving, then it becomes sucked into this funnel. Because of the magnetic attraction between the two the spirit will find it difficult to escape. People should be taught to send out thoughts of comfort and love to the departed one, and this will close the funnel and help to reassure the spirit as it goes forward to reunite with those waiting to welcome it.

 Would you say it is wrong to grieve?

 No, I think it is impossible for the human heart not to feel some sorrow when a dear one is freed from the physical body. But true love, understanding of spiritual laws, and knowledge that the spirit is freed from pain should bring gladness which will go with the departed one as a golden wave of joy.

 Many people nowadays ruin their lives with drink, drugs, suicide or other abuse. How do they manage when they die?

 If people on earth send out thoughts and loving prayers for them, this creates a candle flame of hope which lightens the greyness into which they cross, a greyness formed by their own hopelessness and lack of effort. Then when the serving spirits see these golden flames of prayer they discover the ones in greyness and will lavish love and understanding upon them, perhaps drawing towards them some spirit belonging to the family circle, maybe a grandparent who has known them in infancy, for the love of grandparents and parents for spirits such as this is very deep and compassionate. As this love flows around them they are warmed, some of the greyness is dissolved, and in time they are taught to serve, to give something of themselves, and then indeed they begin a gradual progression.

 Where death takes place and the body is left for medical research, would this in any way hinder the spirit's evolvement?

 It may hinder the evolvement if the spirit to whom the body belonged did not bequeath the body for this use. But if the departing one freely left the body for this purpose, then in the after-death state that spirit will remember this, and may sometimes come to look with interest at the discoveries being made with the discarded body. But if that body was seized and used without the wish of that spirit, then indeed it will be distressed, and may often be held to the body because it does not wish the research to take place.

 At a burial, parsons pray and sanctify the body before it is buried. Doe this have any effect on the spirit?

 This will depend upon the power of the priest, for not all are true priests in the meaning that they are able to channel high spiritual force. Some simply repeat words in a book, or go through motions they have been taught. A true priest, understanding the power of spiritual force may create around the burying place a protective envelope of spiritual power which will protect the body and soul from harmful forces, and may also aid the spirit to move into higher regions of understanding.

 What happens to those who commit suicide?

 There is no mighty spirit who metes out judgement to those who end their earthly life, no god within the distant heavens who banishes them unto the regions of darkness, for here there are natural laws which govern the way of life even as there are upon earth.

 You have compassionate men and women who seek out and minister unto those trying to commit suicide, and here also there are spirits filled with love and compassion who try to bring those who have ended their life in distress, out of this state into love and harmony once more.

 But what happens to them will depend on the conditions under which the suicide occurred. If there was an indulgence in cruelty, and the suicide was an attempt to escape the judgement of others, then the wish to escape will still be strong in the after-death state, and such a spirit will continue to run away from others he may meet. If the departed one was not strong enough to deal with their earthly responsibilities, then their after-death state will be one of confusion, for they find they are not dead but still living. If one soul loved another so greatly and felt they could not continue without that companionship then after death the loved one who previously died will invariably remain close, trying to lead that soul into better conditions of understanding.

 But there are others, spirits of men and women who have terminated their life because they could no longer bear the agony of the body when it was being destroyed by disease. They say to us: "Spirits of Light! What terrible thing have I done? May I be forgiven?"

 We hold their hands and turn their eyes upwards to the light, for these have already passed through the purifying processes of the body as disease destroyed the body itself. So we are able to lift them above the recollection of their pain into the clear and beautiful light of healing.

 Some there are who, under the persecution of tyrants, have found that their future holds no hope, and in their isolation sometimes they too will terminate earthly existence. When we find them wandering within the grey spheres, seeing our light they turn to it saying: "Still the world is dark! Is there no hope, no joy anywhere in the universe?"

 But we link them unto spirits who have loved them, that hope may be restored, and through this chain of light and love they may slowly be lifted into the light. The energy forces still present will gradually be dissipated through their serving and helping in the near-earth region or in the earthly world itself, and the persecuted suicide will begin to rise into higher regions of spirit life.

There are many reasons why earth's people come to the termination of their mortal experiences, and we wish that you would not send out to them thoughts of despair and horror, but rather lift them on prayers of light and thoughts of encouragement.

 You speak of the grey spheres, and the near-earth regions. Why are those who die unnaturally held close to the earth?

 When your spirit first entered the mortal world it formed bodies of feeling and thought as well as creating the etheric and physical bodies. All these become the person who is sitting quietly within this room, thinking: "I am I, I am myself." You are yourself, but you are greater than you know. Therefore, when your spirit relinquishes its hold upon your mortal and etheric bodies and eventually the body of feeling and thought, this withdrawal must be a gradual process, that the elements of the physical body may return to the earth, the power of the etheric may go back again into the aura of your world, and your spirit may continue for a while to learn its lessons through the bodies of feeling and thought-the soul-the vehicle of the spirit, when your earthly existence ceases.

 If that existence is suddenly terminated, the bond between your spirit and mortal body may be broken, but the heavy emanations of the etheric body are not immediately exhausted, and this holds the soul and spirit unto the aura of your mortal world.

 The physical body could be likened to the substance of water, the etheric to a heavy gas, and the soul body unto a lighter form of gas. Therefore, in the process of normal dying, the heaviness of the physical and etheric bodies gradually dissolve, so when the soul is freed it is able to rise as quickly and easily as a light gas. If there is sudden or unexpected death or suicide, then the soul is held down for a time by the weight of the energies in the heavier bodies, and until this is lightened or dissolved the soul cannot rise into the high regions of spirit life.

 If someone who committed suicide was strongly influenced by another's thoughts, are they linked to that person in some way afterwards?

 Yes, for they have absorbed certain radiations from the aura and they will hear the thoughts of that person as they are in the new after-death state. But there are bands of ministering helpers, those we call the missionary spirits, who are forever at work in the near-earth region and in the grey spheres, trying to aid spirits of this kind.

 There is always hope and love, and there are always those who try to reach them, but when they are enwrapped in the shadow of their own despair it is not easy for us to find them, so an intermediary-often a person such as yourself-becomes of immense importance.

 It cannot be easy to commit suicide; it must need a lot of courage. How do you feel about the word courage in this connection?

 There are two aspects in all things, light and dark, weakness and strength, so there is also the opposite of courage which is sometimes called escapism. Many who terminate their life are at that time experiencing this opposite aspect of courage. But those who end their life prayerfully with deliberate intent, these have spiritual courage, and this becomes their virtue in the spirit life.

 We are taught that no one is given more than he can bear, but this would not seem to be the case if people take their own life. They must come to a point where they just cannot bear any more?

 This is only partly true, because all experiences should be aided by the love and care of family and community. If a soul in the earthly life is bearing or enduring a difficult burden, and if that one is forsaken by the companions who should strengthen and encourage them, then indeed the burden becomes too heavy.

 In your world today, unity is becoming weakened, people are beginning to live in isolation instead of as part of a community or family. They often try to establish unity in a different level and fashion, isolating themselves from the family because they do not agree with their traditions and ideas, then becoming enfolded in new groups, organisations, circles, and when that happens, then the soul is again strengthened. But between arriving at the new unity and breaking with the old, they feel lost, alone and weakened. Each one who feels they cannot bear the burden any longer, or that their karma is too difficult, each one is really saying to the whole community: "You have failed to support me! You have failed to help or heal me!"

 Sometimes suicides don't really mean to kill themselves. Is this a cry for help?

 Truly, therefore the responsibility or the karma of the suicide is really upon the whole town, the whole nation, the whole family.

 What happens to somebody like Adolf Hitler who is said to have committed suicide?

 Such a soul descends into the place of shadows, and though for a while he may be comforted and helped by the spirits who love him, he has to be made aware of the repercussions of all that he created amongst his people, including the thoughts of all those whom he harmed and grieved. This will continue to vibrate around him until such time as he works his way out of that condition. But because at one time he desired the good of the community and had love for his mother and family, so there will be some love to soften and warm him in the midst of his confusion.

 If there are spirits who see a potential suicidal type on earth, is not help given when that person is in the sleep state?

 If we can reach such a one by means of symbolic dreams or teach them when they are sleeping we endeavour to do so, but each soul is living an experience special to itself, so it is not possible to say we do this for all souls.

 If you help them in their sleep state, does that mean they do not actually come out of their body then?

 Not all come into the spirit when they are sleeping; only those who are enlightened. Those who are engrossed with their body or immersed in self-pity seldom emerge in the sleeping time.

 When people terminate their life, do they have to reincarnate to live through the experiences that led to the termination?

 Some may wish to take another life experience if they feel they did not gain or learn all they desired. But there are infinite opportunities for advancement in the spirit spheres, and if such a soul wishes to give service to others and to develop the inner talents of his soul, he will be given that opportunity. 

Many people in your present time feel hopeless, and when they find their way difficult, often they remember the peace of death which they have known in a previous time of natural dying, and as they remember, so suddenly there will come to them the desire to go back again into that peace.

 It is for you to send them understanding, saying in your thoughts: "We know of your need, we give you our love. Look to the light, and rise up out of your distress."

 Thus may you aid them upon their way, and also help the servers of spirit to lift them into the true light of spirit where they may again find opportunities for service, for this is the law and the way of the spirit.

 What is the spirit view of cremation?

 Cremation of the body is a good thing, but to understand this you must first know that each spirit is expressing through the body its own magnetic force, its own spiritual power. It leaves an imprint of this power upon everything it uses, the clothes worn, the tools used, all things touched day by day, and through this imprint myriads of tiny threads of magnetic force are established between itself and its surroundings. By this, each of you become part of your familiar environment, and the home, be it humble or great, provides a place of security and peace. When you become separated from these things, especially in old age or illness, the individual is weakened and seems to lose strength. If you are a person who loves your body and possessions then an ensoulment is created, this may hold the soul when you no longer use your body on departing into the state beyond death.

This law and teaching was understood in Egypt by the priests who knew that to retain the spirit influence of the kings, queens, rulers or wise men they could keep the body in such a state that the spirit could not easily pass beyond the region of its ensoulment with the body. So they embalmed the body, placing it in a familiar part of the land, surrounded with things beloved to that person, things imprinted with their own particular stamp of the soul and spirit.

 Similarly is the entombment of the body in your Christian religion, for the body is placed within an encasement of lead and wood before burial, and the magnetic forces are only very slowly exhausted. I would say that such a practice is not good, for the spirit is unable to progress into the heights of spiritual experience or take another earthly life, if so it is needed, while the magnetic force is still retained within the mortal body it once used.

 So it is good and right that people of earth have taken up the traditions of other races. There are those who follow the old truths of India, and there are also those whom you call the Romany gypsies, who in their wisdom submit to the flames not only the body of the departed spirit but also the caravan in which he or she travelled. These Romanies understood the attachment of the soul unto its possessions by the magnetic forces of the soul body.

 Is there a minimum time advisable before cremation?

 Comfort the spirit ere ever the body is laid to rest. The spirit may hover near it for a time, therefore a period of three or four days and nights should be allowed before the body is brought to the purification by fire, for sometimes these who are your beloveds pass into spirit in a state of dreaming, sleeping their way out of the body consciousness under the influence of earth's medical drugs and medicines, and may hover in this half dream state near the body. Only when they hear the thoughts and prayers of those praying for them in their departure into the after-death state do they realise that death has intervened. Then the spirit, still in its dreamy half-drugged condition, will look around and see those who have come to welcome and lead it away into places of peace and joy.

 How can we best help our spirit to leave the body at death?

 If you are aware that your body is dissolving or that the life essences are leaving it, then by the use of your will and your breathing, you may assist this. Think firstly that you are slowly withdrawing energy from your feet, bringing it up through your legs by your will and your thought, upward to the region of your heart and lungs. Then transfer your attention to the brain and by a gentle out-breathing and use of your will bring your energies into the higher regions of the brain, the higher consciousness, by which time your soul energies will have gathered themselves together and you will be floating free of your physical body. Then those guardians who are waiting, will aid the severence of the cords which bind the mortal and soul bodies together, and will simply take you away to the spirit regions.

 But to do this necessitates much thought in the years of your maturity, that as the body ages this remembrance will be firmly set within the spiritual consciousness. The use of this recollection will free you from fear of injury or death. You should also recall in your inner soul those who are your dearest and best beloveds, that coming forward they will accompany your new-born soul away from the body into peace.

 What happens to a mother who dies still dearly loving a son upon earth who does not reciprocate that love?

 When the mother passes to spirit, because of her love she will remain in the awareness of the son, and when he comes to lay upon one side his mortal body she will be there to greet him, for love creates an enduring relationship. But if he still continues to reject this love, then the harmonious relationship is dissolved and he will gravitate towards those more in attunement with his soul, while the mother will be drawn to a region wherein she can express her lovingness towards other souls or spirits with whom she is in harmony.

 But this does not mean the total relationship will be dissolved, for she will still be able to see her son while her love continues.

 What will happen to us when we leave this mortal world?

 Your life will be firstly one of joyous reunion, then joyful surprise, then joyful fulfilment. In addition, when you have become accustomed to your life of the spirit, you may be taken to a place similar to your cinema in which you will see a reviewment of all your past life upon earth. As you sit there in quietude, your friends will leave you so that you may see all the details of your mortal life, your good and bad deeds, why you undertook some labours and neglected others. You will also see the manner in which your thoughts and deeds reacted into the lives of others who were linked to you by friendship, kinship, or work in the community. As you behold this reviewing of your life so you will see it as yourself. Some part of it you will regret, but no-one will judge you except your own self, for you will behold the manner in which you used your spiritual opportunities or neglected your chance to create good and harmony. When the seeing is complete you will either hide your face in your hands, creeping away into the shadows of the hall because you are afraid to look upon those who love you, or else you will lift up your eyes in gladness and see your friends with joy, because there were only a few things of which you needed to feel shame.

 So, try to order your life now so that you will have nothing to regret when you come into the pure light of Spirit. This reviewment will be one of your difficult experiences, but because you will be surrounded by the love of understanding spirits you may be aided even in this time by their sympathy. If they hear you crying with an anguish of regret, loving ones may draw near to comfort and to show you how you may right the wrong by rendering service.